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“Friends with benefits” is a term that has been around for some time now and with films of the same name and stars such as Mila Kunis and Justin Timberlake starring within it, there’s no surprised that is became a bit of a phase…
Friends with benefits are basically friends that you don’t have a relationship with. Perhaps you had dated them once before while you were both in school, or you gave it a bash once years ago but found that you worked better as friends than as partners? They might be people that you would never see yourself being with in a loving, emotional sense. They could even be work colleagues that you don’t particularly like.
The only difference between these friends and your friend with benefits, is that you don’t have sex with the other friends. With your benefit friend, you do!
That’s the beauty of friends with benefits, you see. You could meet someone that you have amazing sex with, but don’t seem to be compatible with out of the bedroom, and you still get to keep them in your life. It’s just like NSA fun (no strings attached), it’s something that fulfils a purpose, not just because you want to feel warm and fuzzy in bed at night, spooning someone else to sleep.
The idea of it all is to not treat it as though it is a relationship because it isn’t. They don’t need to know where you are, what you’re doing, who you’re with, how many drinks you’ve had, and in the same breath, you don’t have a right to know where they are, what they’re doing, who they’re with, how many drinks they’ve had, etc. It’s easy – you get your life, they get theirs, and you get to have great sweaty, passionate, hair pulling, biting, scratching, pounding sex. The best kind – you can do what you like really because you don’t have to cook their breakfast the next day, see their faces without makeup, or wash skid marks out of their underpants on a Saturday afternoon.
Of course, the friends with benefits relationship isn’t something that suits everyone. Some girls can’t handle not having that much control over their male sexual partners. Some guys can’t handle the fact that they don’t know what their girl is up to on a Friday night. It’s something that only works for a small, select group of people, and if you’re the jealous type, it’s probably not the right kind of relationship for you.
There are a few things that you should know before you embark on this journey with a friend with benefits… For a start, these situations almost always end with one party getting feelings for the other party, and things ending in a horrible showdown. However, sometimes these love stories do work and do end in a marriage, babies and happy ever after. You might just end up being one of the lucky ones like our friend Dave who ended a friends with benefit situation with a handshake and a kiss on the cheek. There was no tears, no screaming, no upset… But that very rarely happens!