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NSA dating = no strings attached dating. That’s literally what the name means, which should give the game away a little bit. No strings attached means no romance, no bullcrap, no fluff, no flowers or chocolates, hearts or kisses… It might seem a bit cold and calculated but for some people, it’s most definitely the way forward.
I don’t have time for a relationship!
There are so many men and women out there that simply don’t have the time to fit in a full-time relationship. Does this mean they should miss out on king nights in with multiple orgasms and chocolate body paint? Is it fair that they miss out on Saturday morning hungover sex after the night before. You don’t remember having sex the night before (yet) but you know it was good because your lips are still plumped and reddened, and you feel a slight ache between your legs. How is fair that someone should miss out on all this just because they are working seventy hours per week to become a lawyer?
My wife doesn’t understand me!
Oh come on – we’ve all heard that line. Some of you may even have used that line. It’s one that, although is a cliche, certainly does still work, and although frowned upon, is a classic example of NSA dating.
You definitely don’t want any strings attached when you are married looking for sex elsewhere. Maybe your wife hasn’t wanted to have sex since your last child was born… almost a year ago. Is she sick? Sad? Has she let herself go a bit? Are you lusting after some pretty little blonde thing like the girl you just hired to work in your office as your assistant? You don’t love your wife any less; you just need to get your rocks off somewhere. You certainly aren’t looking for someone to fall in love with. Just someone to screw from time to time when the mood takes you and you just so happen to be available at the same time.
I NEVER normally do this…
OK so this one is a line, but just like “my wife doesn’t understand me”, it’s another line that appears to work sadly. Girls, boys;when will you realise that THIS IS A LINE?
If you are finding yourself saying this, stop it. If you are stood in front of a handsome young man while your slightly balding husband is sat picking his nose on the couch, unzipping your skirt, stepping out of it, unclasping your bra… He already knows what kind of woman you are. You already know what kind of man he is. What’s the point in fluffing this up? You’re both looking for NSA dating fun… Why hide it?
There is nothing wrong with no strings attached dating, although it does have a certain stigma attached to it, and in most social circles, cheating on a partner or spouse is often not a great idea. Thankfully, you can find websites that will help you to find similar minded people online, and most dating websites will even have an “I am looking for..” box in which you can pick your preference. Most of the time you will find a “casual dating” or “NSA fun” box that you can check. Make sure that you check it!
One in three marriages end in divorce these days. It’s a sad fact but a true one. Is it time to face facts, is marriage finished? Is it an outdated notion; one that is no longer relished by little girls dreaming of happy ever after’s and white dresses?
It seems as if people are giving up on the idea of marriage these days and, when you think about it, it makes sense for this to be the case. You need to put time and effort into a relationship and into a marriage, and if you don’t, it will crumble. Who has the time and effort to put into a marriage when they can barely manage to look after themselves each month? What 25-year old guy would want to be settled down with a kid these days when there is so much of the world left to travel, so many girls to meet, drinks to down, parties to gate-crash. On the other end of the spectrum, are girls really just looking for Mr. Right, bouncing from guy to guy in the hope that the perfect one will come along real soon?
We’d like to use a couple of our friends as an example here. Kim is 27 years old and going through a divorce (finally) after 4 years of marriage and a further 4 years of separation. They started off as a one night stand, which probably should have been a warning light right from the word go, but still they continued on their whirlwind romance. They were married within a year. As in love as they were, they both say that marriage destroyed their relationship. They were perfectly happy before they got married but as soon as that ring was on her finger, she was an utter nightmare, and he started screwing around. She had two affairs, looking for the love she wasn’t getting from her husband. He slept with everything under the sun because he didn’t find her sexually attractive anymore. Apparently, she had gotten fat.
Another couple, Kate and Dan, aren’t together at all. They started casually sleeping together three years ago. They have never once said they were a couple, but hither of them now sleep with anyone else. They have an “open” relationship which means at first they were sleeping with other people, but after about eight months or so, they sorta stopped and only screwed each other. They are perfectly happy. They rarely fight. They have their own lives. They don’t put a label on their relationship. They are friends with benefits.
No strings attached relationships seem to be all the rage now, whether you are in a relationship, married or single. It seems that this works better than the traditional type of relationship and when you think about, it makes sense because we no longer live in a transitional kinda world. We have busy working schedules, some of us juggling two or three jobs, or even seventy hour weeks. We have places around the world to travel and lives to enjoy. We work hard and we play hard… It seems only right that we wouldn’t want to settle down, and if we did, we want to explore outside the box in the sense of no strings dating, or affair dating.
It’s funny how the unconventional relationships seem to have a better time of things that those relationships that follow the traditional route. Could it be that marriage really was finished, with NSA fun and affair dating becoming all the rage? Who knows… As we’ve said though; one in three marriages end in divorce.